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>компютри втора употреба been four months since my last post, not exactly a commercial operation we have here…  But then this blog was never intended to be that, no money involved, just a place to think out loud.  I’ve had a lot of friends read my last post and look at me and say - “So whats the answer?”  It never really occurred to me that someone would actually want an answer, crap.  The good news is that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about it.  Because it’s still the most important question in my life.  More important than how will I make a living in the next few years?  More important than will I have enough money to send my kid to college?  It gets right to the core of who we are as human beings.  Forgot the question?

It would be - “How do we keep a relationship feeling that magical way that it does when it’s brand new?” Most people tell me it’s not possible.  I’m willing to admit theres truth to that on some limited level.  But I still believe it can be kept wonderfully alive, like new, if we make the effort.  Not that I have all the details but I do have some thoughts….

When you kiss that person, slow down and enjoy it.  There is nothing routine about sharing a kiss.  Never make it that way.  When your lips touch, feel the energy that flows between the two of you.  Let it be slow, passionate, wonderful, every-time.  Feel their skin on your lips as if it were the first time ever, every-time.  If you can do this then it will feel electric and incredible, every-time.

Is this the whole complete answer?  Certainly not.  But it’s a start.  We must make time in our lives for a great relationship.  They don’t go on being wonderful by accident.  They require work and thought, like anything worth while.  It is the core of what we should try and be, connected to the source energy of someone or something.  That’s what makes a new relationship so special, the connectedness that we feel with new love.

So take the time to feel it and do it right.  It’s definitely worth the effort.  Passionate moments are very much like a period of meditation.  The calmness and lack of outside distractions are very similar.  Allow yourself to become connected to that other person, be it kiss or something much more intimate.  These are the times when we are truly connected to the source.

Feel free to share your thoughts……

I wanna talk about relationships here OK? Not just any relationships, but the one between a woman and a man, as in lovers. I my self have a new one, as in woman, lover. Do you all remember how that feels, a new lover? Or has it been too long? I’m not talking about a new short term physical thing here, but a down to the bones, heart pounding, knee melting love after ending a relationship of 25 plus years. It’s been so long since this feeling has shared space with me. I had serious doubts if it could ever return… I am happy to say that my doubts have been crushed.

So what’s my problem then?? Hears the deal. How do we avoid the typical deterioration that occurs in so many relationships these days? You all know what I am talking about. Why is new love so much more passionate than old love and how can we keep that new love feeling present forever??
I won’t let it happen to me this time. I wanna discover what it takes to keep this feeling alive inside of me. There’s something very special with this woman. Something that I’ve never felt before.

Why is this post on a blog that is basically about buddhism? Buddhist’s believe that one of the best things that you can do to improve your life condition is to help others. Show compassion for all others before yourself. I think our modern western society is just about the harshest environment that a relationship could ever hope to endure. We all get so caught up in our selves. What do I want, what do I need, bla, bla ,bla. We don’t leave much time in our busy day to think about those we love. All too often we hope they will take care of more than their share of the daily duties so we can just relax and be lazy, both physically and emotionally. One thing I am sure of, there is no room in a relationship for laziness. Be lazy about you gym time, maybe your golf game or some gardening. But not your relationship. The mental discipline that is required for any serious practice of a belief system is the most important ally in your efforts to maintain a healthy relationship. How often do you think of two different answers to a choice, one right and one wrong, and fail to make the right one? It doesn’t matter if the subject is a bad habit you’re trying to rid yourself of or a disagreement you’re having with that special person. Most of us make the wrong decision far too often, usually because we are thinking of ourselves first.

I will always think of her before myself. This a fundamental belief in most religious systems, compassion for others. No reason it shouldn’t be good advice for a relationship between lovers!

I am dedicating my self to do my best at keeping my self healthy, happy, and head over heels in love. Happiness doesn’t come from anyplace outside of ourselves. The risk of codependency is large. However, in my mind there is a very clear line between over dependence and love. The test is pretty simple. Do I have to have this person in my life to be happy? The answer is no. Would I really like to have this person in my life?? Someone to share the joys of life and love with. You bet!

I have a short story about a young man, some friends of his, and the question of faith. To begin, you need some background about a guy named Zak.

Zak was one of the boys in my son’s Boy Scout Troop. The thing most people remember about Zak was his smile. It came frequently and was always warm and genuine. I had been on several campouts with Zak over the previous few years. While Zak enjoyed them, he was frequently interrupted by health issues. As an adult leader, I always felt a tad helpless when Zak had difficulties. He suffered from Turretts Syndrome. The good news is that he had been making progress lately. He seemed happier than I could remember him ever being.
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Regarding “Troubles”, it may help you to think of the mind as a untamed horse. You love the horse. The horse is beautiful and the horse can help you in many ways. You do not want to harm the horse, for it will be with you always. You need the horse but the horse can’t serve you well bcause it is not tamed. In fact , the untamed horse is, by nature, dangerous. Continue Reading »

I went to a weekly study meeting tonight for our local group of SGI members. The study material once again raised an important question for me. How does the author of the material that we are studying understand my problems so well? Is it some sort of mystical event that brings material to me just when I need it? Or is it just that we all suffer from mostly the same issues and problems, and have done so for thousands of years? Continue Reading »

Let’s talk a little bit about karma. The word gets used frequently in casual conversation, but as a non Buddhist there was a lot that I did not understand about it. I used to think that it just meant that everything that was going to happen to me was destiny. That’s sort of right but it leaves out a lot there is to know about karma. The important thing to understand is the relationship between cause and effect and karma. Continue Reading »

There is the more obvious reason for the name. That has to do with what I said here: http://thetruthweb.com/thetruth.htm

But there is another deeper and more important reason for the name of this site. It has to do with something I read very early on in my study of Buddhism, an article in Tricycle magazine. A Tibetan lama named Rinpoche explained that on one side you have most religions, while on the other side you have the sciences. Buddha-dharma he said was in the middle. “Buddhism is common sense: truth”

I like the sound of that, common sense, the truth! So it seemed appropriate for the name of this site. We will seek the truth about why our lives are so difficult to live correctly in our modern society. We will explore why it is so difficult to think correctly and to be truly happy with our selves and stop seeking our happiness in all of the wrong places.